10 years ago

today I married my best friend. It’s hard to believe it’s been that long, I don’t think either of us ever thought we would get married to begin with, yet here we are. We have been through every possible relationship stress and we’ve stuck it out. Deaths, infidelity, unemployment, lies, moving, it’s all tried to destroy us and we’ve become stronger for each challenge. We’ve become very different people than when we first met, and thankfully during this we’ve grown together rather than apart.

We aren’t like most couples, and I think is what has helped us last. We don’t need time apart, we go to ‘extreme’ to accommodate each other, and frequently refer to each other as the same person with different genitals. We are truly happiest when we’re together, whatever we’re doing. When apart there are frequent calls, just to hear each others voice and say, “I love you.”.

I get the credit for the positive changes in the Mr. and I used to see it as a compliment. As time went on I began to realize I didn’t make him change, I didn’t DO anything to change him except…love him AS HE WAS. That was the biggest factor, he was much like me in that he was going to live his life the way he wanted and that is off putting for most people. They want to change you, for their benefit or because they care.

Just saying, ‘ten years’ sounds like a long time. It doesn’t feel like its been that long, and yet it feels like we’ve always been together. I cannot remember feelings toward anyone else, I feel as if past relationships or any crushes I may have had were another person entirely. I can’t imagine or remember not loving him, we’re such a part of the other that there is little we don’t share. Our moods shift based on the others feelings, if he’s upset I get upset even when he doesn’t behave as if he’s bothered.

I am so glad I found him, I don’t think I would be who I am today if not. I would not have my daughters, and would constantly be hunting for that missing piece. The part of me that was missing, one I had given up hope of finding. Yes I had already given up on love before I turned 18.

When we met, we were apart for less than 24 hours from the first day and to this day we haven’t been apart for more than 24 hours (overtime being the only LONG time apart). I would go home to shower, sleep, go to work and back to him. He had no car at the time, but being already used to hauling friends around this was no concern, I was just so happy to be spending time with someone that was more of a friend and validated everything I was feeling. He encouraged me to be who I wanted to be, he immediately got along with my mom-even convincing her to let ‘us’ bring home a lizard that I had previously been forbidden to have.

 

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One thought on “10 years ago

  1. lafemmet September 5, 2013 at 10:38 am Reply

    Happy 10 Year Anniversary. I love you both so much. XO

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